Hi I'm Ava. Stelena. Anti Delena. The only reason I keep watching TVD is cause of Stefan Salvatore.
I’d say throwing a screaming teenage girl on bed, biting into her throat, then later compelling her to have a sexual relationship with him all while using her as his personal bloodbag falls under definition of rape.
Not to mention he was also compelling Andy to sleep with him. In both situations a woman couldn’t consent, so it’s rape.
He even tried to assault Elena two times, once trying to compel her, but she had a necklace with vervain, and the other time Jeremy interrupted so Damon snapped poor boy’s neck.
After he found out that Elena is sired to him he happily proceeded to have sex with her even though consent in a relationship where one side is literally a puppet of the other one is dubious at best, non-existent at worst.
And oh yeah, he used Elena’s starvation when she couldn’t hold blood in 4x02 to make her perform a vampire equivalent of a sexual act on him without telling her it’s sexual.
That’s his history of sexual abuse; I can write you another essay on all those lovely threats of beating Elena when she disobeys him or how he tortured Katherine because she rejected him etc.